I met you last month at the Women's Day Out event at the Best Western in Hillside, IL. I've gotta be honest, when I first picked up your book, I thought to myself, "I really don't need to add another self-help book to my library." But after purchasing and reading it, I now realize your book spoke to me in ways in that other books couldn't. It was very honest, which is a must for me, and though women from all cultures will be able to relate to the book on many levels, it spoke directly to African-American women, who tend to have more emotional baggage - some due to historical residue and some due to poor and misguided choices. BUT, when you know better, you do better and I just want to send a big THANK YOU for helping us dig a little deeper.
Keep on writing and just know that your work does not fall on deaf ears.
All of God's To You,
Regina E. Dillard
Hmm! That is what I said when I first looked at the cover of Crossing the Threshold. I figured since I am married with children, I had no need for this book. This seemed to be a book written for single women. Oh, but I was so wrong. Crossing the Threshold spoke volumes to me. It accurately layed out a powerful analysis of the psyche of both men and women as far as relationships are concerned.
Though this book is applicable to both married couples as well as those who are single. I strongly recommend that all single people read it. Lots of reassuring reasons for your singleness will be discovered. You will feel empowered by your singlehood and understand why it is so important to become a whole individual before you are blessed with a mate.
The real life examples and thought provoking questions were an added bonus to this superbly written masterpiece.
My new motto was adopted from this book. "I will be a positive influence on others and will encourage them to give their best. I will surround myself with positive people who will also encourage me to be my best."
Thank you,Talayah Stovall, for writing such a much needed aide for all who are seeking guidance in building meaningful alliances.
Relevant Challenges for Richer Relationships,
Talayah G. Stovall in collaboration with Valencia E. Edner offer practical concepts on how to develop quality changes in your life patterns to help you become your "best self" and to prepare you for successful relationships. The book addresses the process of continuous personal growth, self defeating behavior, negative self image, and how to recognize true qualities of others.
The book is divided into four parts. Part I cleverly defines the various "doors" that describe behavior patterns that hinder successful relationships. Part's II and III offer some pitfalls to avoid while building relationships. Part IV provides positive plans for "constructing" healthy, meaningful, loving relationships.
The format of the book uses an analogy of the door with real life illustrations to lay a foundation for the probing questions in the exercises at the end of each chapter. The "door hooks" become the principles for the reader to cross their own personal threshold to becoming the whole person God intended you to become.
I appreciated the Talayah's simple common sense practical pointers. "Life is a process, not an event. We should focus on the entire journey, not one single step. We need to be present in the present and embrace life fully."
The chart outlining the differences between infatuation and true love is invaluable. A focus of attention on the thought provoking questions on readiness for commitment will enhance your chances of success in any relationship.
Although written from a woman's viewpoint, the book is rich in application for both men and women. I personally found the affirmation statements to be helpful in implementing the concepts and ideas into action steps for strengthening my own relationships.
This is a book is an excellent resource tool for professional and lay counselors. It can become a life map for anyone moving into a new relationship and can become a stabilizing factor in existing relationships.
Stop Being a Door Mat,
Written primarily for women, Crossing the Threshold takes the reader on a journey of self-discovery from Door Mat to Door Belle. Stovall and Edner use real-life relationship stories and Bible quotes to illustrate the destructive behavior patterns women fall into and how to break them to form a relationship based upon Christian values.
Wonderful & Enlightening,
Ms. Stovall has done a marvelous of job of addressing the sometimes complicated topic of relationships and brought it down to earth in an engaging manner. Great relationships are a treasure and maintaining relationships take effort. Kudos to Ms. Stovall for encouraging us to examine our inner-spirit and delve into our heart of hearts as we strive to be the best person we can be.
| My Understanding of Relationships Has Just Jumped Up a Notch,
The only motivation that I have ever had to read a book on relationships was to expand my knowledge-base in order to be a better therapist. That was my objective when I began to read "Crossing the Threshold" by Talayah Stovall. Well, was I in for a surprise. |
I began to appreciate the depth and breath the author has achieved, while keeping terms and concepts down-to-earth. This book spoke to me. Her ample examples encouraged me to reflect on the dynamics of my previous relationships, and what may have contributed to their demise.
As an author and speaker, I use a valuable formula to get my point across; that is to make a point, tell a story, and have the reader do an exercise. In this book, Talayah follows that format flawlessly. I am so impressed.
I have no hesitation in recommending this book to anyone who wants greater insight into their own traits, and those of their partners.
Brian E Walsh PhD, author, Unleashing Your Brilliance
This book was written with great love for women young and old. It speaks greatly of how women should respect themselves and become the woman that God has called us to be in our relationships. It provides great wisdom and love. All that read it will strive to become a door belle!|
"An excellent resource for women and men who seek to enter a lasting relationship or to improve the relationships they are in."
Rev. Jerald January, Sr., Senior Pastor, Vernon Park Church of God
Author, Speaker, Former USA Director of Compassion, International
"This book will increase your self-awareness, allowing you to strengthen your relationships. The principles can apply to both men and women."
Bryant Young, Defensive End, San Francisco 49ers
4-Time Pro Bowl, 4-Time All-Pro
"In order to attract the best you have to be your best! This book challenges you to develop the qualities that will make you relationship-ready."
Rev. Willie Taplin Barrow, Chair Emeritus Rainbow PUSH Coalition
Author, "How to Get Married and Stay Married"
"A must read! This book is concerning the journey a woman travels as she finds her true self."
Natalie J./The Night Train, Producer/Host, Houston, TX
Awesome! This book was written with great love for women young and old. It speaks greatly of how women should respect themselves and become the woman that God has called us to be in our relationships. It provides great wisdom and love. All that read it will strive to become a door belle!
For those that have never analyzed their actions and reactions in relationships, this is a good read with a spiritual base. The Q&A at the end of each section, if sincerely used, can create some self awareness of how to be a Door Belle in relationships and life overall.
P.Walker Chicago, IL
"My sister and I absolutely love your book! She is almost done reading it. I started reading it and she stole it from me and she says she can't put it down! It's great, from the chapters I read before she took it from me."
Tiffany Hurt, Chicago, IL